How to Complete Yourself
Most of us have heard the famous line from the movie Jerry McGuire: “You complete me” While the saying sounds heartwarming, it’s a false advertisement. The idea of someone completing you implies that you are not a whole person
Here’s the utmost 100% truth: You are already whole and complete. Being in a loving relationship can add joy to your life, but it’s not the answer to everything. If you cannot be at peace with yourself first, then developing healthy and happy relationships will be almost impossible.
We mirror the world. If you feel unhappy with life, then you attract unhappy situations where ever you go. That’s the law of attraction in action. Here are a few tips on some vitals ways to feel whole within your own self.
For some reason, it’s so much easier to forgive others than it is to forgive ourselves. Mistakes are a completely normal part of life. Failures should be embraced as life lessons.
We grow by learning the lessons.
Living with the guilt of our mistakes can lead to self-destructive behavior. You might think you’ve moved on but what do your actions say? When you learn to forgive yourself, your life completely changes. You begin to see that everything you ever wanted in life is yours for the taking and you deserve a happy and fulfilling life.
Give Yourself Grace
Creating change in your life takes time. Be patient with the process. Success doesn’t happen overnight. Set goals for yourself– big and small. Take the time to celebrate when you reach them.
You can’t lose 100lbs in a month. Keep it realistic. Setting unrealistic goals will damp your motivation. If you have a broken heart, give yourself time and space to go through the emotions.
It’s okay not to be okay.
Putting yourself first is not selfish. You can’t take care of other people if you don’t take care of yourself. You can’t give something that you don’t have.
In an airplane emergency, we’re taught to put on our own oxygen masks first, and then assist others. We do this because we are no use to anyone if we’re dead. If you don’t take care of your body, for instance, you’ll be more likely to get sick. If you get sick, then people will end up having to take care of you.
When you don’t take the time for self-care you’re basically telling the world that you don’t matter. You do matter. Who’s going to put you first? Fill your own cup with love first. You’ll have plenty to share with the rest of the world after.
Comfort is great. Curling up under a blanket and watching Netflix is very relaxing. Mindlessly scrolling through Facebook is an awesome way of killing time. Comfort is normal and safe… and it can be very boring.
What are your passions? What are some things you’ve always wanted to do? Life isn’t about hiding in our comforts, it’s about growing into the best version of ourselves. Enjoy some adventure. Romance yourself. Take yourself out to dinner, read an adventure novel, plant a garden, or take a trip.
It can be as simple as taking a new road home after work or waking up early to watch the sunset.
Do things that are exciting to YOU.
Seeking adventure ignites a passion in our hearts that push us to want to do more, see more, experience more, and give more. The most important relationship we have is the one we have
When we are happy and confident where we stand, we are free to make life whatever we want it to be. Loving yourself allows you to love the world. You are a whole, unbroken, and complete person.
You, do you, boo.
Hey, I'm Nicole
I'm a blogger and a single mom blessed with the task of raising an extraordinary child on the autism spectrum.